How familiar are you with these words? If only I did that…….I should have said that…….I wish I didn’t do that! “Regrets, I’ve had a few,” in the song, “I Did It My Way,” definitely sums it up.
Look, we all have regrets, some more than others, but replaying the “should have” mantra in your head doesn’t magically bring back that moment for a redo. Beating yourself up over missed opportunities will only confirm your innate anger at yourself which then leads to beating yourself up even more.
Regrets are a perception of opportunities missed. Feelings of sadness, disappointment, and anger at oneself can become fuel to bring about more of the same. How many of you would jump at the chance to go back in time and redo things in your life knowing what you know now? How amazing would that be? Like having the answers ahead of time and acing every test! But, as you know, life isn’t that simple. Life in all its glory comes with many different layers. Some filled with yummy delights, and some filled with pure agony.
One thing I can assure you is that you came here equipped with everything you could possibly need to succeed in the game of life. While some of the layers you are wearing consist of feelings of unworthiness, loneliness, anger, and depression, other layers hold magical gems that are desperately trying to get your attention. If you remain stuck in regrets, believing that nothing can change, and punishing yourself for what you believe would have been your one and only shot at life, you are mistaken! You get a do over every second of every day! Choose to look at your regrets as fuel to your engine of change!
- What will you do differently next time around?
- What did you learn from these regrets?
- What can you say to yourself now that is positive self-talk instead of negative?
Understand that you did the best you could at that time. Let’s face it, life has its magical moments, but it also has moments of discord and unpredictable events that throw a curve ball into your plans. The next thing you know you are blindsided and looking back wondering why you didn’t see that tornado coming.
The truth is that you may never see the tornado coming so give yourself a break! The more you take the time daily to talk to yourself with love, let the past regrets go, and take ownership of your role in the past situation, the faster you will release that heavy baggage. Instead of regretting what you did or didn’t do, look at the situation and replay in your mind what you wish had happened. This will allow your subconscious mind the opportunity to create a new program for the next time a similar situation appears. Take that doubt and spit it out, you are the only one who can control you…..do it your way!
As the song goes…… Yes, there were timesI’m sure you knewWhen I bit off more than I could chewBut through it all when there was doubtI ate it up and spit it outI faced it allAnd I stood tallAnd did it my way I’ve loved, I’ve laughed, and criedI’ve had my fill, my share of losingAnd now, as tears subsideI find it all so amusing
Always remember, you are more than your pain, more than your scars, and more than your fear. Why? Because YOU ARE AMAZING!Are you ready to make 2022 the year you Step into Your Magnificence and Transform Your Life? I have a few spots left – classes start February 22, 2022
Much Love & Blessings, Susan
Spiritual Transformational Life Coach