How often do you blame someone else for your outcomes?
Let’s face it, we have all been there and done that. But in what ways has it helped you? It may feel good in the moment but eventually that blame turns into resentment. If you let this blame and resentment continue to hang out inside of you it will eventually take a toll on your body.
When you blame someone for how you feel, you are actually giving them power. It’s as if you are putting them on a pedestal and declaring them as the winner for ruining your day.
Let me ask you a question – Do you believe you have a choice in how other people make you feel?
Yes! You always have a choice in how you feel. No one has the magical ability to jump into your body and make you feel a specific way. Only you have the final decision on how you react and how you feel, even when they know which buttons to press.
Some people blame their parents for ALL their issues……..
So, how is that working out for you?
While some of you may have experienced horrible childhoods, as an adult you have the capacity to break the cycle, take ownership of where you are repeating the same behavioral patterns, and the willingness to let go of blaming others for your outcomes.
Letting go of blame is a big step into healing. Whether your blaming you ex for the mess you’re in, your parents for your inability to thrive, or your co-workers for always ruining your day. YOU HAVE A CHOICE!
I’m not saying it is easy, but if you want to free yourself from the power you’re handing over by blaming others then you will need to take ownership of what you can do differently.
This week I challenge you to notice where you are blaming others for ruining your day, or even believing they’ve ruined your life!
What role did you play in all of this? Maybe you were an innocent bystander, or maybe you weren’t.
The key is to recognize that blaming others will deplete your energy. You are the main character in your life. The sooner you realize that the people in your life are here to love you, support you, challenge you, and PUSH YOUR BUTTONS, the sooner you will succeed in holding onto your happy energy.
The next time someone attempts to ruin your day. Take a step back, take a deep breath, and focus on where your energy is projecting. Is it going out to that person or are you holding on to your happy energy and moving on?
The challenge lies within your reaction when those buttons are pushed. Let them keep on pressing your buttons or choose to press DELETE!
You may need to take a closer look at what surrounds these issues. Are you setting boundaries and honoring them? When you hold your boundaries in place, you are in turn honoring your needs, not theirs.
Always remember, you are more than your pain, more than your scars, and more than your fear.