How often do you find yourself blaming others for how you feel?
When you blame others you are placing yourself in the victim role and you can’t win in the victim role!
I understand how easy it is to get pulled into that mentality of blaming another for how you are feeling. When another person in your life is treating you with disrespect, it is almost impossible to ignore the feelings that get ignited within you. However, the important thing to remember is you oversee your feelings.
Believe me, I know, that sounds a lot easier than it is.
By allowing another person to take your joyful energy and trigger your anger, you in turn are also allowing them to steal your power. To maintain your joyful energy, it is important to recognize that this person is antagonizing you to take away your power.
When you blame someone for ruining your day, you are giving away your power to them. By understanding that while they may have been extremely rude, you have the choice to take full ownership of how you are reacting and how you are feeling. You can blame them and become the victim, or you can realize you are allowing yourself to feel anger due to their behavior and handing over your power.
Again, you are in control of how you react and feel!
The next time someone challenges your feelings, and you catch yourself blaming them for messing up your day, take a moment to bring your power back by understanding that YOU are ALLOWING that person to steal your joy. Once you submit to their negative energy, you are putting yourself in the victim role. Instead of being the victim, be the victor by disengaging, walking away, taking slow deep breaths, and owning your power by owning your feelings and not blaming others.
Here is an example of what you could say to yourself, “I am allowing Sally to steal my power by blaming her for ruining my day with her rude comment. So, I am going to choose to ignore her behavior, take my power back, and enjoy the rest of my day.”
This keeps you out of the victim role and back in the role of victory!
Your challenge this week is to notice when you fall into the victim role by blaming others. Remember, you are the driver of your ship.
Do you want to sink or stay above water!
Always remember, you are more than your pain, more than your scars, and more than your fear.
Why? Because YOU ARE AMAZING!