At some point in your life, you may have learned that it felt safer to avoid your feelings than to express them and to ignore what needs your attention, so you didn’t have to deal with any unpleasantries.
Sometimes letting your feelings out may have resulted in negative outcomes. Other times declaring how you felt left you feeling as if your emotions didn’t matter. Whatever the outcome was you may have developed a coping mechanism by avoiding your true feelings. This avoidance then becomes a habit and soon you are ignoring things you know need your attention.
- Do you make excuses when you know in your heart you need to have a difficult conversation?
- Do you avoid speaking up about your needs?
- Do you procrastinate and put off cleaning clutter?
- Do you continue unhealthy addictions saying you’ll do better next week?
- Do you ignore the fact that you’re miserable at your job?
Unfortunately, ignoring and avoiding doesn’t make anything go away, it just prolongs the inevitable. The longer you keep putting a Band-Aid on the issue the deeper it becomes embedded in your energy field building up a pile of heavy baggage that accumulates and weighs you down.
Since the subconscious mind is your powerful protector, it noticed this avoidance pattern. It then creates an alert that goes off whenever you feel the urge to express your feelings or take that first step to speak up, clean, stop unhealthy addictions, and brings you back to what it considers safety…….not taking any action and avoiding your feelings.
This is common more than you think, and many people become so lost in shoving their feelings down and staying with the familiar.
When you continue to hold in your feelings, it forms layers that build and build until your emotions eventually burst, or your body becomes ill and fatigued.
Just like the saying goes, “It was the icing on the cake, I couldn’t take anymore and lost it!” or “I blew a fuse!”
For those of you who learned at a young age that it wasn’t ok to express your emotions, you learned this pattern of holding everything in which also created a subconscious belief that how you felt didn’t matter……when it most definitely does matter!
Know that you can reprogram your subconscious mind by creating a new habit that is healthier. Instead of waiting for your emotions to become overloaded because you avoid them, learn to listen to them. They are communicating with you to help you grow.
You are a spiritual being living a physical human experience, which means you are meant to feel all these different emotions. As unpleasant as some of these emotions may feel, they are a necessary part of your growth and evolvement in this lifetime. They are clues your body gives you so don’t ignore them and avoid them. They will only resurface again at another time until you begin to work with your emotions and addressing what needs your attention.
This week give yourself permission to really feel your emotions. If you feel sad, let yourself cry, talk to your inner child and give her/him encouragement and love. If you feel angry, give yourself permission to feel this anger and do some form of exercise, go for a quick walk, punch a pillow, write it on paper, then shred it. Do whatever is necessary to get it out of your energy field.
If you need to have that conversation you’ve been putting off, put aside some time to reflect on how you want the conversation to go and visualize a positive outcome, send love energy to that person, and be confident but open to where you may need to compromise.
You are truly the only one who can take care of you at this deep level. If you wouldn’t ignore a close friend who was hurting emotionally, then why would you ignore yourself? Your subconscious mind is very powerful, but it is you who is driving the master ship!
Always remember, you are more than your pain, more than your scars, and more than your fear.